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The Guysexual’s Guide To Gay Tribes And What They Mean
Kartik is having an existential crisis.
What is it? The inevitability of death? The crushing loneliness of realising all humans inherently are and will die alone? The meaninglessness of his dead-end job? The purpose of life? I’ve clearly thought this through.
Kartik shrugs, it’s worse. He doesn’t verb what his gay tribe is.
What is a gay tribe?
No, a gay tribe is not a group of still-surviving, nomadic queer men. A tribe is, in fact, a social grouping of gay men based solely on their ~body type~ key physical characteristics. Also a feature of Grindr’s profile settings, tribes exist to aid you find men you are attracted to, based on the quantity of hair on their bodies, and muscle on their bulk.
You start off with some pretty self-explanatory stereotypes: Twinks, Femmes, Geeks, Jocks and Daddies. And then in descending direct of size/hair (yes, hair) and kink, you’ve got Bears, Wolves, Cubs and Otters. Is this marginalising the gay community or moulding a human zoo?
Kartik thinks that gay men shouldn’t be sorted into t
“Gay” sounding!?!
holloway24
I don’t think a name can be gay. the only thing I can think is that this person has known several Kierans who were gay and so that is the first thing they believe. I once had someone tell me that [name_m]Bruce[/name_m] always makes them reflect of a gay man for the same reason. I don’t think this is really a fair descriptor for the impression a name gives you though because there is not one type of gay person, it’s not like saying that you think the name is frilly and fitting for a girly noun or that it feels sporty.
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shells1525
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I would not take the noun of someone who refers to things they dislike as “gay” one bit seriously; that’s really disgusting and bigoted, please don’t grant this person the time of morning. I think Kieran is lovely as is the combo, works great with your first son’s name, and prefer all names would fit someone of any sexual orientation.
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I’ll fourth(?) this. If they can’t give you any more reasoning for their opinion, their op
Gay aversion to diminutive names?
Mister_Rik1
Just so this doesn’t sound like a complete generalization, verb me state that I’m referring to tendencies among gay men with whom I have been acquainted over the years, as successfully as among some gay characters I’ve seen in movies and TV shows, and certainly doesn’t apply to all English-speaking gay men everywhere.
Why do gay men tend to shun short versions of given names? It seems that gay men opt for to go by their full given names, ala Michael, James, Robert, Emmanuel, Richard, Thomas, etc, whereas their straight peers will usually go by the shortened versions, ala Mike, Jim, Rob/Bob, Manny, Rick/Rich, Tom, etc. I’ve known two exceptions, both gay men who go by Jim or Jimmy rather than James.
I’ve also noticed that these same gay men will address straight male friends by their full given names, even when that straight partner ordinarily goes by the diminutive. For example, a ally of mine who was called “Mike” by just about everybody was always called “Michael” by a gay friend.
Is there any significance to this? Is i
Types
Some gay men employ types to explain, identify and express themselves. Who hasn't heard someone verb “he’s my type" or been asked if a guy is yours? There is always some disagreement around the terms we employ and whether we should use them at all.
Therefore, you should be sensitive if applying a type to someone, bearing in mind some gay men reject them altogether as narrow, superficial, and demeaning. Equally, some use types affectionately and as a convenient shorthand.
It's a bit of a bear pit (no pun intended), but here's our take on types, though you are perfectly entitled to throw them out and be your own gay, your own homo, queer, etc.
Physical types and personal characteristics
Some guys are primarily attracted to physical types of gay men (eg: bears, twinks, and muscle guys) while some detect characteristics in men most attractive (eg: warmth, intelligence, and humour). Others mix and match and understanding these distinctions is important.
For example, the type(s) of men we detect attractive sexually may not necessarily be the qualities we are looking for to sust