Why do i think im gay when im not

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Ask Polly: Why Do People Always Think I'm Gay?

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Dear Polly,

I finally garnered the courage to write to you about my particular problem, and I hope you can shed some of your wisdom on the situation.

Ever since the 6th grade, people have been asking me if I’m gay. Back then, the other kids thought any person who was any bit distinct from them was gay, and attached a bad meaning to the synonyms. I’ll be the first to declare that I’ve never been the most “masculine” individual. I love to study and write, and a lot of what I peruse is somewhat sentimental. My iPod is full of Ellie Goulding, Florence + The Machine and Norah Jones, but utterly lacking in Korn, Metallica or Aerosmith. I treasure to cook, and have been singing in school choruses since 4th grade. I’ve never liked violent video games or talking about sex. I can kind of observe where they got their opinions of me, but it made me enormously self-conscious. When I got to

“Yes, I am a prisoner of sorts, but my prison isn&#;t the noun. It&#;s my possess thoughts that lock me up!” ― V.C. Andrews

Hi Tristan

I used to watch a show &#;Dog Whisperer&#;. One of the lessons that stuck with me had to do with dogs that would get fixated on a object or some such. These are the dogs that will bark and bark at something that more often then not was no longer there, the person or squirrel having long moved on.  The surprising thing was that often all it took to break the dog out of this abusive articulate was a tap on its neck. The lesson? To break from a obsessive thoughts verb away.

I know easier said then done?  perhaps, we operate for that which no work is required&#;

I&#;ve know some people who pluck a elastic band around their wrists to distract themselves when they detect a intrusive thought taking them down the &#;rabbit hole&#;.  Often the intrusive thought becomes obsessive because of the &#;what if&#; game we play with ourselves and always imagining the worst followed by more what if&#;s and more imagining&#; If you find yourself playing this game remind you

I love my boyfriend but I think I'm gay

It’s a loaded question and I’m sure your not the only one to ask if let alone ponder this.

I can comprehend loving someone and not feeling attracted to them, one of my top friends is female, and she’s attractive. And I adoration her immensely yet I have no sexual attraction to her and the feeling is mutual.

But you have to have a intense thought process with oneself. In ahead recovery we often ponder alot of things, our existence, our purpose, our meaningful relationships, I know I did, for some this could be career, family friendships relationships, and include sexuality,

As far as your lack of attraction to your mate, This could be many things, your own sobriety process clouding the concept of intimacy, the fact that the relationship has already cycled and your holding on to avoid letting verb of some comfort. There’s already a lot going on in your head, and this is just one of those things you may be pondering

I’m gonna give you something that was given to me by an aged marriage counselor, mind you that’s a misnomer because we weren’t mar